If you’re in life on this planet, conflict is unavoidable; it’s how we handle it that is important.
From time we are very small children we seem to be able to do it wrong! We often get physical, loud, emotional, want to be heard, be right, and be winners.
There is a way to do it constructively and right. Do not set out to win or you will always lose. Whether you are married, single, or very young or very old, there is a right way. So, we must be prepared to settle our differences with the right motive and for effective, positive results.
When I was growing up there was a common remark: “ Sticks and stone will hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me“, Wrong! However, names often do hurt most of the time.
Try these to help resolve conflicts:
- Commit to each other to build UP not hurt
- Be responsible in the conflict
- Aim for HOPE not hurt
- Keep a positive attitude, build each other up
- Instill hope that these issues are resolvable
- Never get physical, keep calm, don’t scream, and stay in same room
Most people want to avoid conflict, but the fact that there is a “fight” is a step in the right direction. Face conflicts head on, don’t run from them, or lash out angrily.
There may be some pain to deal with but the stuffing and silence is broken because the real stuff is out in the open with positive discussion.
“The enemy goes around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.” (Peter 5:8) This enemy of “Conflict” is out to destroy you, your relationships, and your family. We do not have to give this enemy a place in our lives.
There is a positive way to resolve our differences that will bring good results. Work on it!